I am NOT Superwoman!
So, hello and apologies it has been so long since my last blog but life has just been a little hectic to say the least! This last weekend, I have had an escape child free and I feel human again and certainly am a lot less stressed.
Over recent months, a number of times I have been referred to as Superwoman now for me this does not sit well as whilst in part it is a compliment, I feel it also comes with a lot of pressure and expectations. Juggling life for any working Mum is hard and whilst I appreciated the sentiment some days having a few minutes to breathe is what keeps me sane. My life in the last year has changed immensely and I am so proud of what I have achieved and the difference I have made to my client’s well-being but a few weeks ago I cracked and it hit me that something had to give – I cannot do it all.
I feel in part I am my own worst enemy and critic, I aspire to be the best I can be and have a zest for life to share my passions and skills but what I hadn’t realised is how much I had overcommitted myself and sadly I have had to step back from some of my volunteer work to give myself some space. For me this has not been an easy decision and the guilt I have felt over letting others down has been tough but since making the decision and the understanding of those around me and who it impacts on has been overwhelming and it made me realise that it is ok to say no, it is ok to step back and say I need to be with my family.
Part of the reason I have struggled these last few weeks is that due to overcommitting I have not allowed myself any self-care time and it just highlights how important it is. I strive to inspire my clients to make time for themselves and that we should not feel guilty for allowing ourselves space and time to breathe – I was putting everyone else first, my clients, my work, my family and forgetting about myself and sadly I have learnt the hard way. It has been coupled with sleep regression from my baby boy which for any Mum out there will know how hard this phase can be!
So, I guess I have learnt a great deal about myself in the last few weeks, I have exciting plans for the future and have blocked out my self-care time now to ensure I have my space to re-charge and breathe. I am only human, I do not have super powers and I genuinely love what I do but with anything in life it is all about balance – so take care of yourself and make sure you make time for you.